Bonding?

 https://youtu.be/nnX1Xz1pHUM?si=yZWYzE2INv8y_We4


Yes, people bond through trauma, but they do that subconsciously. You don't choose someone who's traumatized because there's something wrong with you, in fact, you're trying to protect yourself from any future possible danger because when you're traumatized, you don't always seek empathy from others, but you seek full understanding and who can understand what you've been through more than someone who's been there too! 

You might think that they will know for sure what it feels like to be put in a traumatizing situation because they walked in your shoes before and so you will be safe UNTIL you find out that you're not on the same page regarding past trauma and both of you didn't walk out the same door. Your trauma made you defensive while theirs made them viscous. Now, you're running away again but only this time, with more fears, triggers and determination to be defensive, with less trusting hands and the will to get close again.


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